No One Plays the Victim Quite Like the Narcissist

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When you finally set a boundary, speak your truth, or walk away— they don't take accountability.

They take centre stage.

Suddenly, they're the one who's been wronged.

They rewrite the story so they can be the wounded one-and you become the villain in their version.


This is called victim-playing. And it's not just manipulation-it's protection of their fragile ego.


Here's how it often looks:


❗️They twist the facts

You express hurt-they accuse you of attacking them.

You leave-they say you abandoned them.

They change the story to avoid shame.


❗️They seek sympathy

They tell half-truths to friends, family, even therapists.

Not to find healing-but to win allies, create confusion, and paint themselves as the misunderstood one.


❗️They discredit you

They call you unstable, bitter, dramatic.

They question your mental health to others while masking their own behaviours.


❗️They bait you to react

When they can't control the narrative, they provoke.

Because if you react emotionally, they can point to your response and say, "See? I told you."


If you've experienced this, please hear this:

You're not crazy. You're not cruel. You're not the problem.


You're someone who saw through the illusion and chose your peace.



And that threatened the version of themselves they were trying to protect.


Let them play the part.

You're busy reclaiming your truth.

Quietly. Steadily. Without needing to prove a thing. 



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