“I’m just joking, everyone knows my sense of humor” I’m just a smart arse.

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Narcissists often use the phrase "I'm only joking" as a manipulative tool to avoid the consequences of their actions.


👉🏻 When They've Insulted You: 

Narcissists frequently mask insults as jokes. If you confront them, they deflect accountability by saying, "I'm only joking," making you seem overly sensitive and diverting attention from their hurtful behaviour.


👉🏻 To Cover for Inappropriate Humour: 

When a narcissist uses offensive or inappropriate humour, they might insist it was just a joke. This allows them to evade criticism and makes you question whether your discomfort is justified.


👉🏻 To Make Manipulative Teasing Appear Normal:

Narcissists often disguise manipulative teasing as playful banter. If you express discomfort, they'll claim they were only joking, pressuring you to accept their behaviour as harmless fun.


👉🏻 To Insult with Passive-Aggressive Statements:

Passive-aggressive remarks are a common tool for narcissists. When called out, they often respond with, "I'm only joking," to downplay their hostility and shift the blame onto you for overreacting.


👉🏻 Deflect Serious Conversations: 

In serious discussions, narcissists might throw in a "joke" to derail the conversation and avoid accountability. This tactic trivialises important issues and steers the focus away from their behaviour.


👉🏻 To Test Boundaries: 

Narcissists push boundaries to see how much they can get away with. If their behaviour is challenged, they retreat behind the excuse of joking, making it difficult for you to enforce your limits.


👉🏻 Invalidate Other People's Feelings: 

By dismissing hurtful comments as jokes, narcissists invalidate your feelings and experiences. This gaslighting tactic undermines your emotions and reinforces their control over the narrative.


Recognising these patterns can help you see through the facade and protect your emotional well-being. Understanding that "I'm only joking" is often a manipulation strategy can empower you to hold narcissists accountable for their actions.


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