10 Things You Need to Know About Narcissists 💔

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If you've ever left a relationship feeling like you were the problem...


If you've walked on eggshells, doubted your memories, or felt like you were too sensitive, too dramatic, too much...


Here's what I wish every survivor knew sooner:


1. Narcissists crave control, not connection.

They don't want to know you-they want to own you. What looks like affection is often a way to maintain power.


2. They use a cycle: idealise, devalue, discard.

At first, you're everything. Then the criticisms start. Then the coldness. And when you ask why? Somehow it's your fault.


3. They don't show empathy unless it benefits them. It's not that they can't feel for you-they just choose not to if it doesn't serve their image or control.


4. They gaslight to protect their ego and maintain control.

They'll deny things they said, twist your words, rewrite the past

-until you feel unsure of your own reality.


5. They make themselves the victim.

Every confrontation becomes an attack. Every boundary is seen as betrayal. You end up apologising for hurting them... when they were the one who hurt you.


6. They seem lovely to everyone else.

They can be charming, generous, and magnetic in public.

Which makes it even harder to explain what's happening behind closed doors.


7. They fear exposure more than anything.

If you call them out, the mask slips. You'll likely face rage, coldness, or retaliation. It's not about hurt-it's about losing control.

They isolate you to break you down.

Little by little, they chip away at your support system-until you feel like they're all you have. That's how they keep you dependent.


9. It wasn't just you-they repeat these patterns.

You weren't too sensitive. You weren't too needy. They do this to everyone close enough to see behind the mask.


10. Healing is possible-and you deserve it.

You're not broken. You're not weak.


You were manipulated by someone who needed to shrink you to feel powerful. And now? You get to take your power back.



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