A narcissist will do you wrong, then convince everyone it was all your fault.

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Narcissists are skilled manipulators who often do harm but twist the narrative to make it seem like their victim is at fault. This tactic allows them to evade accountability while maintaining their image as the innocent party. 

Here's how they do it:

1. Twisting the Facts

Narcissists often distort the truth, omitting their wrongdoing while exaggerating or fabricating yours. For example, if they lash out at you, they may claim it was a reaction to your supposed "provocation."


2. Playing the Victim

By portraying themselves as the victim, narcissists gain sympathy from others. They might say, "I've done so much for them, and this is how I'm treated," flipping the situation so they appear wronged.


3. Smear Campaigns

Narcissists will spread subtle or blatant lies about you to friends, family, or colleagues. They use statements like, "I'm concerned about their behaviour," to plant seeds of doubt about your character.


4. Gaslighting

They may deny their actions altogether or claim you're overreacting, leaving you confused and questioning your version of events.


5. Enlisting Flying Monkeys

Narcissists recruit others to side with them, further isolating you and strengthening their case against you.


By manipulating narratives and emotions, narcissists expertly deflect blame, leaving victims to not only deal with the damage but also defend their reputations. Recognising these tactics is essential for breaking free.




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